So you just got engaged… Congratulations! It’s one of the most fun, exciting and popular moments of all time (I’m a little jealous!). Many people will start giving you advice as soon as you get engaged, some of them really useful, some of them, not so much. Today, we’re here to tell you why you need to stop, do nothing and avoid ending up in wedding planning holes before you’ve even had time to post a selfie on Instagram. We were there, we did it and these are the things we want, we wouldn’t know if they got engaged…
1. Tell your Snapchat followers in front of your grandma
You’d be surprised how often this happens, but so many couples put their good news on social media before they’ve even told their friends and family. And even if it’s up to you who you say and how you do it – and you may just want to yell it from the rooftops-you probably don’t want your mom to hear that you’re engaged by the neighbor who saw it on Facebook.
Do your best to persevere and tell as many people in person as possible (it’s so fun to see their faces!), then call all other important friends and family before pasting it on the Internet.
2. The promise of not much (and Early Expectations)
Now say yes to nothing and everything and think that you can clarify it after. Your Father wants to invite his Friends. Your grandmother thinks you should get married in a church. And your mother-in-law wants to sew Bunting in her garden for a summer wedding.
Try not to commit to a single cause during the first few weeks of engagement. The best advice a friend told me was to have prepared a vague one-liner as soon as they got engaged, so if everyone (inevitably) asks If they made plans or thought about them, they have an answer ready to go. She was:”we haven’t booked anything yet, but we only know we want something small and casual”. Such a thing will be enough to set expectations and give a little information without making firm commitments.
3. Do not accept all advice (but be polite)
You will learn pretty quickly that you have to diplomatically accept unwanted advice and suggestions when you get engaged, so this is a good ability to accept early. Listen to what people have to say (there are probably hints gems in it!), but do not feel like you have to agree to take all this. Just say “thank you very much, I will definitely keep this in mind” and keep going.
4. Do not choose Your Wedding party
You may already be 100% convinced of who you want for your bridesmaids or grooms, but hold back a little before you ask them. Depending on the length of your engagement, the type of wedding you end up having, or how your Budget works, you may need to make changes to the wedding party you currently have in mind. It is easier to do this before you tell them to save hurt feelings.
You would be amazed at how much a friendship can change during an engagement, so many brides and grooms believe that another friend or brother would have made a more suitable wedding witness or wedding witness if the wedding was going on, so it is advisable to exercise caution.
5. Wear no Ring that does not fit
So many brides-to-be are so excited to rock their stone that they neglect it may not be suitable. If your engagement ring is too large or too small, make sure the size is changed immediately before wearing it. Otherwise, you may lose or damage it or seriously injure your finger. It only takes a day or two for the size of a ring to be changed, and you will definitely have it on hand forever!
6. Do not book anything
It is natural that you look at the venues and suppliers shortly after your engagement, it is all part of the fun. But don’t make reservations until you have a clear picture of what you want for your day. The moment you start to include things, you have to think about practicality, and your infinite possibilities begin to shrink. Sit down for a while with the engagement before making any decisions. It’s pretty great to dream big for a few weeks (or months), so treat yourself to that.
7. Do not buy a dress
I almost bought a wedding dress before I was even engaged, so I’m not really the one to talk about when it comes to this one! It’s so tempting to book a bridal date once you’re engaged and trying on dresses right away. But as with suppliers, it is important to stop for a while, think about what they want and what they can afford before falling in love with beautiful white dresses. Similarly, a dress too early in your engagement means you might get tired or see ten other dresses you would have preferred during your wedding planning.
8. Do not start to emphasize
It’s easy to be overwhelmed by the prospect of planning a wedding, whether you’ve been planning it for years in your head (and on your secret Pinterest board) or it’s a total surprise. Try not to let it stress you or cause you sleepless nights to worry about money. It’s just a big party, after all, you can make it as elaborate or as simple as you like. And if not, you can still escape!
9. Do not go on a diet
Getting married doesn’t mean you have to go on a diet. Or get a boob job. Or have you made your teeth. Or let your skin lase / inject / peel. Or other dramatic remodeling measures you might consider. Sure, the bride and groom want to do their best and feel their best on the big day, but that doesn’t mean they won’t have to eat noodles for 18 months (Horror!) to drop a few sizes of clothes. You get married because your other half loves you as you currently are. So don’t change yourself, you hear? We have a great Podcast episode on the subject, so listen!
10. Do not download Customers
Everyone is involved in the excitement of a commitment, and some people might accidentally invite themselves to the wedding. Similarly, you might find that you are hyped by fountain’s desires and invite people without thinking. As with the bridal party, try to keep things vague and avoid obligations, especially around people like co-workers, extended family, or old school friends who might not make the cut when it comes time to create your guest list.
11. Don’t forget to say Thank You
Chances are a lot of people will send you cards and gifts after they get engaged-I remember being pretty overwhelmed by everyone’s kindness. Make sure you keep a List of all the people who send a gift and send them a thank you card within about six or eight weeks (one thank you text is enough for one card). This is not only polite, but it will get you into a good habit for all the beautiful gifts probably your way around your wedding.
12. Don’t forget to give it up
Being engaged is simply the best feeling ever! You are in a beloved bubble with your other half, everyone around you is taking root for you, and everything feels like a happy and fuzzy time. Then treat him!
Throw a party, go for a weekend, grab lots and lots of festive drinks; take (at least) a few weeks to engage before immersing yourself in the fun of budget tables, site visits and cake tastings!